“I hate to lose more than I love winning”
What is wrong with society that places so much importance on winning in sports that they neglect the need and well being of their child – athletes.
I’m not sure I’ve seen it all, but I’m pretty close to it. I’m not going to talk about who loves to win (we all do!) what I’m going to talk about is who supports you when you win/loose . I’ve been coaching for over 4 years now, and I’ve seen them all. From parents who just love to see their kids compete and try to do their best from parents who think this is the world championship and his child should perform at an NBA level. So here’s a shout to you all, I’m grateful that your believe in my methods of coaching your child. Rather than relate the horror stories that I have witnessed and some of my fellow coaches told me lets focus on some things.
Parents – your 7 year old child is not going to play as well as a 10 year old. He may not play as well as your best friend’s 7 year old either. Youth basketball is a development sports, let your kid develop at his/her own pace. Even if your kid a the star of the team the odds are still far greater that he/she will become a doctor than he/she ‘s going to be a professional (basketball) player.
Coaches – you are not Phil Jackson coaching the LA Lakers neither Alex Ferguson coaching the Manchester United. Screaming at 10 years old and a 16 years old referee while cursing on the sideline does not demonstrate intensity its simply idiocy.
Parents – You may not believe this, but your child is very much attuned to your voice. When you start shouting instructions from your seat you do not help.
Positive cheer = GOOD Instructional cheer = BAD
Coaches – You made the commitment to direct this team, get good at it (still working on it). Your drills should be fun. With all these instructional stuff over the internet, books, DVD there is no excuse for drill boredom in the gym.
Parents/Coaches – There is no room in youth sports for adults who cannot control their behavior.
It’s simple guys celebrate success when you have it, but ENCOURAGE effort.